A Well-Bred Man—What Does It Involve?

A WELL-BRED MAN 

1.0 A man with good home training is polite, He shows respect and concern for the feelings of others. 

2.0 He respects his Elders.

3.0 He speaks the truth at all times. 

4.0 He shows self-restraint while eating or drinking among other people, he does not shout or fight for food or drink, He waits patiently for his turn. 

5.0.1 He eats like a responsible person in a restaurant or in any occasion, He doesn't lick the plate with his tongue or fingers, neither does he crush the bones of meat so loud in a way that attracts people's attention.

5.0.2 He doesn't cross or raise his hands over other people's food on the table.

6.0 He shows good manners in responding to the calls of Nature, he does not yawn like an animal keeping his mouth wide open and looking at you, neither does he cough or sneeze into your face or into the food he is serving, He turns away his face or closes it with his handkerchief. 

7.0 He uses his handkerchief also and not his finger to clean his eyes or nose especially when there is a second person, he does not blow his nose carelessly in the presence of people or into the sink, He uses tissue papers or handkerchief for all that.

8.0 If he is leaving his company he says "Excuse me Gentlemen " or "Ladies " as the case may be. 

 9.0 While in a meeting he shows civility and obedience; While speaking there, if the chairman declares his speech out of order and asks him to stop, he agrees. 

10.0 In shopping or other business transactions, he tries to observe the Rule of "First come First served". 

11.0 In his employment he tries to be punctual, hardworking and conscientious. He shows human sympathy to all his clients. 

12.0 In a narrow passage, if inadvertently anybody gives way to him, He says "Thank you ". And if inadvertently he bars anybody's way or touches him he says "Sorry ".

13.0 In the Bus he gives seat to sick persons, pregnant women Or elderly people.  

14.0 He keeps his surroundings clean and neat at all times. 

15.0 If a person who does not understand his language joins his company, he speaks in a language that all can understand. 

16.0 When he plays his record or cassette or watches his television, he makes the sound low or moderate for the sake of his neighbors. 

17.0 He is satisfied with his partner in a relationship. He doesn't go hunting for valley girls and bimbs.

N/B: THIS APPLIES TO BOTH MEN AND WOMEN. 

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MEEKNESS —​ How To Cultivate It!

Hello.... Welcome!!

Today We wanna deliberate on this rare gem quality calls MEEKNESS.

First and foremost, Meekness may be defined as a quality that helps a person wants to be gentle when dealing with others and to remain calm when provoked.

In order for an individual to cultivate meekness, He or She needs to posses these Four (4) superlative and appealing qualities such as HUMILITY, SUBMISSIVENESS, MILDNESS AND INNER STRENTH.
These Four (4) qualities produce the rare gem attribute — MEEKNESS.

Let's discuss them orderly.

1. HUMILITY:-

This can be achieved If an individual is free from pride and arrogance. To be humble, a person has to be lowly in mind and ready to submit. This takes us to the second quality. 

2. SUBMISSIVENESS:-

 This always comes in terms of yielding or obeying superior authorities. A person can achieve submissiveness when he or she is in subjection to laws of those who are in higher ranks or positions than him and those below.

3. MILDNESS:- 

 This attribute is not a weakness rather it is essential for a person who has good sense. Mildness will never permit disputing or resisting.
Mildness is a strength.

4. INNER STRENGTH:- 

This centers on the power you have to control your emotions. It's not always easy to have self-control but INNER STRENGTH is fully behind to support.

At times, We may posses all these yet there are likely to come challenges and how can we deal with them.

1. WHEN COULD IT BE DIFFICULT TO BE MEEK?

*When Given Or Handle Authority:- 

Imagine You as a boss, gives an order yet your worker refuses to follow, how will you react? This is a challenge to our MEEKNESS. 

It can be very difficult to display meekness especially when someone you oversee or lead treats you with disrespect or even question your judgement.

*When Persecuted:-

Facing persecution can really make it very difficult to remain meek especially if we are being accused or opposed for what we know nothing about.

*When Dealing With Stress:- 

Stressful predicaments can test our meekness. It can make us to over-react easily. This can make our words and tone to be harsh and cold.
Stress can make us get irritated over little stuffs that did not normally trouble us.

Despite all these vices, Is still possible to cultivate meekness?
Yes! At least for three (3) benefits.

2. WHY SHOULD YOU CONTINUE TO SEEK OR MAINTAIN MEEKNESS? 

*You Will Make Better Decision:-

Being meek can help you encounter easy choices in life.
You need to HUMBLY accept that others might in one way or the other superior to you and need to SUBMISSIVELY follow instructions and guidance.

*You Will Avoid Making Mistakes:-

Stress can really make you feel weak. So You need to check and maintain your meek attitude constantly in order to avoid making unforgettable mistakes in this life.

Even during under pressure, You have to strive to be meek because if you neglect your meekness for a moment, the result might likely be disastrous.

For instance, Think about what will happen if you find yourself over-reacting or screaming at your workers in the office! (Remember point three (3) MILDNESS)

*You Will Be Protected:- 

Those who are meek and can maintain their meekness always find favour and feel safe.
They avoid unnecessary problems. They do not have enormous regrets of past words and actions. They have peace of mind.

They are highly valued and respected, why? —​Because They possess the FOUR (4) prominent qualities that produce meekness —​ HUMILITY, MILDNESS, SUBMISSIVENESS AND INNER STRENGTH!!

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